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How To Meet And Keep The Right Man
I have decided to start a series of reviews here on some of the books that you see around the internet about relationships. How to attract a man, how to make a relationship work, better sex and so on.
In part I do that as I offer some good relationship resources in my sidebar and like to read all those books, and also because I know that for many of my readers their relationship is one of the most important things in their life, and that is why they are looking for a great gift for their man.
Another reason is that I consider that one of the most important things someone in a romantic relationship can do is to nurture that relationship, and make it the best it can be. To me that is one of the most important gifts you can give to a man. A successful and loving relationship.
And of course he should strive to do the same for you.
This time it's the book "Meet And Keep The Right Man" by Naomi Miller. It's about exactly what it says, how to first attract and meet the right man for you, then how to keep that relationship going and successful.
Naomi is a marriage and relationship consultant, with an M.A in psychology, a lecturer and an established author in the field of successful relationships.
Right at the start she poses the critical question, how do you find the right partner in a society that glorifies the individual, dismisses us from the necessity of finding a spouse and forbids us to compromise, but offers no alternative solution to a romantic relationship or for that matter an alternative solution to loneliness?
The book tackles that question in a systematic and deliberate way, starting with a consideration of the science of loving relationships.
This is no quick or easy read. There is 216 pages of well researched and well thought out content, and it will be a challenge to read and take in unless serious attention is given to what Naomi says.
For example it draws on serious scientific research in various fields of social sciences and across relationship studies from a range of different countries. It offers specific advice for women in the form of a 5 step program that each woman can follow to implement the recommendations of the author.
No fluff here, just serious advice that you can follow day to day.
It immediately debunks the myth of love at first sight and the perfect relationship, as well it should.
It offers an alternative view of a successful relationship as an exchange of resources where both parties to the relationship offer what she calls profit and loss. That both bring various resources to the relationship, and take from it as well, and should do so equally.
She considers the "stocks" everyone has to bring to a relationship. These are the advantages that they offer to the other person. Be it looks, professional qualifications and success, social and family background, economic position, social and family background, personality and more. And how important it is to not only recognize the stocks or advantages offered by a potential partner, but also to maximize your own.
She also offers down to earth and practical advice on how to find a man and how to "market" yourself to him. How important dress is. Tips on what to wear on a date, your hair, skin, teeth, body odor, nails make, up and more. Should you lose weight for example?
Little things you may never have thought of yourself, for example you must always try on your clothes sitting down as well as standing up before selecting them. Or if you don't have a business card then make sure you get one.
What to do if you're currently out of work.
How to make yourself more interesting, more academic, how to increase your talents. How your finances affect your chances and what you can do about it. Tips about your car and your house you would never have thought of.
She discusses how women run their lives, and why some are what she calls a "sinking ship". Ie a woman who just never seems to be able to attract a man, and what to do about it.
And then how and where to meet the right man. Types of social events to attend, places to go. Quite specific advice on what to do to find him. Good practical down to earth stuff. Doable stuff. And what not to do.
There's stacks more, I won't list it all here. But it's down to earth point by point practical and useful advice. Advice that I found myself going hmmm to, now THATs a great idea.
Obviously I read this book from a mans perspective, being a man. But it rang true to me. Things she said about men were, to me, accurate observations. She understands men well.
Overall this is a serious, researched and scientific book. Who won't like it? Someone who is looking for a fast read, an easy answer, something that will produce a result with minimal effort.
Who will like it? A woman who recognizes that finding and maintaining a successful relationship is perhaps the most important undertaking of her life. That to do so will take time and effort. Who is willing to make sacrifices in her life to attain her goal. Who will take her time to read the book a number of times and make a serious effort to apply what it says.
And those who do that will, I would expect, have a much greater chance than women uneducated in the science of meeting the right man and creating a great relationship. Naomi has done a great job.
If you're serious, really serious, about creating a relationship that works for you then I do suggest you read Naomi's book. It's very much not to be missed. To do so click here, you'll go to the obligatory sales letter. If you just want to buy it scroll down to the bottom. If not set aside a half hour or so, it's an interesting read, but it's long.
And please come back here and leave a comment telling us your view on the book, I've told you mine, so you're welcome to do the same.
And if you've already met him you'll need a great idea for his Christmas gift.Â
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